I have been a feminist ever since I was in high school. I argued politics and was aware of a lot of stuff I knew my classmates weren't even worried about then. If they debated they also tended to spew out a lot of what they had heard their parents say in arguments-so it was kind of a moot point.
At this point in my life I'm pretty submerged in my own interests: Writing, computer games, tv, and movies-the normal kind of thing for a self proclaimed geeky girl. What I've found more and more, especially when reading book or comic sites, is this absolute need for everything to be inclusive- and if it's not people start getting their panties in a bunch.
Lets start with Skullpoopl
I just read a "very disappointing" article on Tor by a female author. She says how she enjoyed the movie, taking time to occasionally roll her eyes at certain derogatory statements made by said anti hero, but enjoyed it despite overused villain tropes. She then ends the article with a list of feminist complaints: There was female nudity that was only incorporated sexually (even though she had just said it was cool they showed male nudity) and some flippant, not even overtly sexist (lets call it female general-ism), comments made through the narration. What are you expecting exactly? There are reasons why people like Deadpool (women included). A lot of that has to do with his flippant disrespect for everything-it's not just you sister. It's like I'm reading high school compare and contrast papers in the media at this point. This kind of reporting is encouraging mislead social justice warriors and will eventually lead us into another gamer gate (don't get me started on that). I was a super fan of the Mary Sue-then they went way to the left on the crazy girl train too. There's a reason I think this is bad-and I'll explain that next.
The Mary Sue and BookRiot
I quit reading the Mary Sue because it was turning a little SJW for me, everything felt like a "triggered" article. It made me sad-because they have some great articles for girls and women about comics, fantasy, and science fiction. There are just so many articles I can read about what was wrong with a game or video due to the lack of armor on a female character I can take.
Book Riot made me angry. There was an article on a woman who pledged to read only women for a year-the title ended with something like "-And I Wouldn't Change A Thing". I posted a quick comment about how if this was flipped it would be considered sexist-and didn't that professor that only taught male authors (albeit for a sexist reason) get pretty much laid out to dry for the same thing? My likes started to ping. A lot. Then they DELETED my comment. Then they posted THEIR TERMS OF CONDUCT. Their thing was making it a safe place for people with minority voices to be heard. I looked at the author's bio. She was ME. Early thirties, kids, she even played roller derby. I was angry-I wrote a few more comments directed at the moderator, I hadn't attacked the girl-I had stated my opinion. They gave me the bye Felicia wave. Who does that? Apparently a millennial that has too much SJW craziness running through their veins. If you want to hear what people think you can't only take what one female says and ignore the rest of the female voices trying to join the conversation if they disagree with your own. Women have the right to be zoo keepers, police, lawyers, teachers, presidents, queens, doctors, nurses, or maybe they even have the right to be a stay at home mom that wants to pop a couple of kids out. As a feminist it's our duty to hear everyone of our gender out, even if it disagrees with our own, or it's not really feminism is it? Also, you may disagree with the statement I made on her article-that's fine-but guys had a lot to do with how we have come to (more or less) equality in this century. We can't discount them as our opposing gender. We should be their champions just like we demand for them to be ours.
I personally feel that there are more males that want women to succeed (at least in this culture) than not. There are those crazy outlier sexist jerks that think rape should be legal-but I think that is a minority.
College and Military sexual assaults (both for males and females) need to be addressed harshly and taken care of- instead of the blame being shifted around by officials. We need to teach our sons and daughters to respect each other in a way that is mutual to everyone. Raising our children in a good educational atmosphere along with a healthy upbringing will develop individuals more able to cope with and read social situations. It's time for people to take responsibility and start to fix the emotional health and limits of our culture.
As for us females, in particular, we need to change US. Stop the slut shaming. Stop the judging. Stop demanding things be all inclusive. Don't demand change without wanting to help be the change-It's like charging into a guy's apartment and reordering it to the way you want it. Let's make our own apartment the way we love it-then I think people might want to come over. We have our girl stuff. Sometimes I think it's okay that they have their guy stuff without having to include us-and if it's a Deadpool movie- then so be it.