I have come to the conclusion (in my questions to random writers) that there are two type of female writers. Those that fall into the Big Magic (Elizabeth Gilbert) camp and those that fall into the The Art of Asking (Amanda Palmer) group. These people may or may not be aware of this. Both books are on letting go and giving yourself permission to create. Both books kind of go through the author's process. Both have different personalities behind them. They have negative and positive things going on in both parties, I just find Big Magic a little...not pretentious, but fluffy.
It's hard to be an artist or writer, it's even harder if you're female. People can argue against this logic, but when you take into account the way women react to criticism, their inner toil with the creative process, and possible motherhood on top of all that, it's kind of a recipe for quitting. It's not okay to quit. We need to push through it. That's why Big Magic, for me at least, didn't cut it.
Gilbert kind of says-Keep creating, but you probably won't get to do anything with it. Why would anyone want to keep creating just for themselves? The logic doesn't make sense.
I did enjoy The Art of Asking, although it comes off as more of a biopic than anything else (there are parts of her personality that I kind of fight to understand, but I guess that's just the way it is). She also addresses Impostor Syndrome, probably a little more than Gilbert does in Big Magic. I feel that as female artists this is the biggest struggle-not feeling like you're getting it or that you've made it once you're at the top.
Half of the time I'm not sure about where I want to go with something, or maybe the kids are trying to get me to bang my head against the wall, it varies from day to day. The most important part of the creative process is to keep going. No matter how bad you think it is. Your writing, your life, your creative flow, could all be worse off than it is right now.
When it really comes down to being creative and doing what's needed, it may get embarrassing. It may get hard. But in the end the most important part is not to give up, make excuses, or downplay our own natural talent. It's there, it just might not be ready yet.