I remember being little and loving Supergirl-her strength, her will to kick butt, and her beauty. A couple of decades later sitting on the couch watching the new show with my kids - an overwhelming anger came over me. I hate her. I genuinely told my husband anything would be better than watching that show. I am also not a big fan of Superman-we both agreed on this opinion and moved on to Ghostbusters for my son.
To me, and let me repeat that this is my opinion, Supergirl exemplifies everything that a girl is supposed to become. Kind, soft spoken, pure to a fault, and trusting to some extent. She also has the blue eyes and blond hair every girl wants when they're small-because of course the media kinda pushes that this is the most desirable look (even if you know this to be untrue it's always kind of in the back of your head).
Girls have enough to deal with without being berated (by media in general) to be the perfect mold of what would make someone else happy. I now look at this fictional character with some disdain. I now hate her. But I won't keep my kids from watching it. Primarily because it's not the Supergirl of the 80's and it seems to offer a little more than a piece of eye candy saving people.
Any good superhero story is about trying to make a difference. Whether it be to try and fix a situation or to become a better version of themselves. We need more realistic pictures of what heroes can be like- and I believe they aren't there right now-at least not for kids. Adults can watch Daredevil and Jessica Jones. Adults can comprehend that sometimes someone who is dark, sexual, and has a little bit of a bad side can make the right decisions for the greater good. Because by the time you grow up you realize all of that is really inside each individual person. People usually choose to do the right thing day after day.
I think we need stories that tell kids it's okay to grow up, to struggle, to not know what is really right yet- but to do the best they can in a world of grey after all they've been taught is in black and white. We need stories that tell kids it's okay not to be perfect-but to strive for the best of what they can be. They aren't that ideal individual trying to find their way in the world because- let's face it-no one is perfect. And it's too much of a burden on our children to insist that they are.